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Are conflicts or violence in danger of escalating in your partnership or family?

  • Police emergency number: 110
  • Fire/Ambulance/Emergency: 112

(compiled by the Professional Association of Austrian Psychologists)

So-called “density stress” arises in tight spaces. The unusually large amount of time together can also cause conflicts in the partnership or in family life. All of this can lead to disputes and even acts of violence.

  • Define clearly defined hours that everyone spends on their own.
  • Allow all family members to retreat.
  • Raise anger before the situation escalates.
  • Take a stroll around the block or through the forest on your own.
  • Have a daily family mini-crisis team or conference: How is each individual, who needs what, what ideas and wishes do the individuals have?
  • Be more indulgent than usual, towards yourself and towards others! It is quite a challenge for all families.
  • If necessary, get professional help from the relevant hotlines or crisis hotlines, e.g. at
    • Supraregional:
      • the telephone counseling: “An open ear for all concerns”, by phone, email or chat through the telephone counseling (Tel: 116123 and telefonseelsorge.de)
      • the number against Kummer - parents' telephone: 0800 111 0 550 (Mon-Fri 9 am-11am; Tuesdays and Thursdays 5-7pm)
      • the child and youth telephone number against Kummer: 116111 (Mon-Sat 2 pm-8pm)
  • For Bremen you will find local offers e.g. under https://familiennetz-bremen.de/veranstaltungen/coronavirus-aktionen-und-unterstuetzung-in-bremen/

(compiled by the Professional Association of Austrian Psychologists)

Spatial confinement, a lack of opportunities to retreat, and a lack of intimacy can lead to aggression and violence. Actively and consciously counteract an escalation of the situation. You have the following options:

Recognize and name violence. Even with yourself!

Violence has many forms: hitting, yelling, devaluing, ignoring for a long time ... Be honest with yourself and react when you notice that you are beginning to feel completely overwhelmed and become violent as a result.
Make phone calls for your own relief!Talk to a friend on the phone, even if it's just to speak to someone else. If possible, move to another room. Take a deep breath. If that is not enough, contact an emergency telephone, e.g. the telephone counseling (Tel: 116123).
Do not act out violence!Negative emotions, tension and aggression are normal in exceptional situations. It is not bad to have aggressive feelings towards someone, it only becomes dangerous when you act them out.
When violence happens: talk!

If you notice that other adults are becoming violent at home - especially against children or adolescents - talk to them. Perhaps you are the only one in this situation who can now protect the child. Let yourself be supported, e.g. from:

  • Supraregional:
    • the telephone counseling (Tel: 116123)
    • the number against Kummer - parents' telephone: 0800 111 0 550 (Mon-Fri 9 am-11am; Tuesdays and Thursdays 5-7pm)
    • Children's and youth telephone number against Kummer: 116111 (Mon-Sat 2-8 p.m.)
    • Online advice for young people and parents by the bke (Federal Conference for Educational Advice): www.bke-beratung.de
    • Online advice for young people on all forms of violence: www.safe-me-online.de
    • Sexual abuse helpline: 0800 22 555 30
    • Violence against women helpline: 0800 116016
  • For Bremen:
    • Child Protection Center Bremen: 0421/240112-20
      Monday to Wednesday from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. and Thursday from 3 p.m. to 5 p.m.
    • Child and youth emergency service of the city of Bremen (available 24 hours): 0421 - 6991133
 
Get help if you are affected by violence!The same applies of course if you are affected by violence yourself: Get help. It is important here that you do not remain alone. You are not alone, even if it appears to be in an isolation situation. Get help: from friends, counseling facilities, from the telephone counseling of a violence protection or child protection center, in the case of massive violence also from the police or child and youth welfare (telephone numbers see previous point).
And above all: get help in good time!Don't wait until it's too late: the other tips on these pages against boredom, against fears and worries, and against conflict help to deal with the uncomfortable feelings that arise in tense, often cramped situations before they turn into violence.

Berufsverband Österreichischer PsychologInnen BÖP (2020). Informationsblatt "COVID-19: Wie Sie häusliche Isolation und Quarantäne gut überstehen“. Verfügbar unter: https://www.boep.or.at/download/5e71d59d3c15c85df5000028/20200317_COVID-19_Informationsblatt.PDF [26.03.2020].

 

Quick Help

Fire brigade / Ambulance
/ Emergency doctor:
112

Police emergency number: 110

Crisis intervention service
Bremen:
0421 - 80058233

Child and youth emergency service
Bremen:
0421 - 6991133

Telefonic Consultancy

BDP-Corona-Hotline:
0800 777 22 44

Telephone counseling: 116123

Parents Hotline: 0800 111 0 550

Youth Hotline: 116111

Help line violence against
Women:
0800 116016

Help line sexual abuse: 0800 22 555 30